What Gets At You?

[greypilgrim]

Alright, almost every thread I try to start belongs in "Stuff and Bother"...but mostly, this one is for the Periaurs.

What qualities about you personnaly get to you, personally?

OK_a little more plain... Personality-speaking, what do you (if ever) think might need some working on, to make you a better person? Personality-wise.

First, one thing I'd try to change about me is my ettiquette (manners, the way I talk to people). I've been mis-understood a billion times in life, sometimes over important things. You can never "unsay" things...Dang! I'd have alot of peace if I just kept my mouth shut at times:eek:

Of course nobody has to talk about themselves...I care not. Just thought I'd throw that question out there! There's some interesting peoples out there, in here, everywhere...and I'm just curious if anybody has these types of rants.:D

[Legolam]

I would definitely change the fact that I think far too much about life in general. I'm never spontaneous purely because I'm too scared!

Things that annoy me at the moment in other people are snoring. It's so frustrating because it's not their fault, but I've been awake since about 5am today, and I have a long day ahead! Snoring sucks :rolleyes:

[TheFool]

hmm, I hate the fact that I'm 23 and bouncers still won't let me into their poxy little nightclubs with out a passport - specially when 6 of my friends have already paid to get in, and then have to come out again - bless 'em, don't know how they put up with me:D ). The other day I bought some Pro-plus from Asda, the woman asked me if I was 16. Oh, the despair in my eyes :rolleyes:

[DGoeij]

Try not to shave or at least less.:D

According to myself I don't have to change, I'm great! According to my girlfriend, I'm arrogant.:p

But seriously, I'm pretty happy with myself, but I really need to plan ahead and do the things I have to do. I keep getting into trouble by postponing important and less important things I have to do.

[Niniel]

There are many things that I would like to change about myself, most important of all I would like to be less impatient, because I somethimes can get really angry if things don't work out fast enough (like computers breaking down...). And I would want to be more comfortable in talking to people... I am very shy, and sometimes I really don't know what to say to people, even if it seems really easy. But I know changing such thigs is very hard, so I have more or less accepted these things about myself, because if I would be frustrated every time I did something I wouldn't like about myself, I would have no life.

[The_Swordmaster]

The main thing that I hate about my personallity is that I'm just an idiot. I have the least common sense in the world. So when people talk to me i have to ask them to repeat it about 5 times. Because my stupid head doesn't work right. That's why I'm not doing good in college. Oh one more thing I don't have a good fake ID. So that means no bars for me.

[greypilgrim]

Interesting! I have some thoughts for anyone who's interested (no I never got a psychology degree)

legolam: Be spontaneous and smack the person snoring next to you. heheh

Fool: Dude, looking young is awesome! Ask any older person (older than you) and they'll tell you the same. What is Pro-plus?

DGoeij: Shaving sucks.:D And there's no better time than tomorrow, and the more time you spend on something, the better it turns out!

Niniel: You speak the truth for sure. I accepted that fault of mine only recently in life, and I'm way happier now! Everyone has to inter-act with other people, and if you're good at it, people will follow you (if you want them to), and they will understand. Understand?:cool:

Swordmaster: Ditto! But in reverse... I mean, I say the same thing all the time, but differently...ahh the (heck) with it!:eek: I mean nobody ever understands me either! Jeez...
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Well, I've got a new rant about myself. Here goes: I get super-excited too easy! I see something I like and I buy it. I get an idea about something (anything) and if it's a good idea, I really go after it, sometimes to my own ruin. People have taken advantage of me because I get hyper over things, always have (have gotten hyper, not taken advantage of). Oh well, so far nothing really bad has happened because of that!;)

[Elbereth]

Let's see...so many flaws...so little time...heeheehee :D :rolleyes:

Well for one...I'm a big time insomniac. I can't seem to discipline myself to go to sleep at an appropriate time.

I'm also guilty of being a procrastinator. This has been a lifelong conflict...that I have tried to overcome...but find it very difficult no matter how hard I try.

I also need to learn to stand up for myself more often...I can definately be too flexible at times. Every so often I do try to exercise my inner *****...however, I'm too nice and then I end up feeling guilty... :rolleyes:


I probably have some more...but I'll mention those at another time.

[TheFool]

gp: hehe good point... maybe I'll never be old :D ;) . Proplus is basically caffeine pills.

+good luck with your big move, hope it all works out!.

[legoman]

this has come to light recently actually. I sometimes don't know when to stop, I tend to take the mick out of people quite a lot (no really) but recently I have not been able to realise when I have taken it too far and it has become insulting. I used to be very self-controlled but this year at uni I have lost a lot of that control, which in some ways is good, but it has led to me insulting at least one of my good friends because I didn't stop when I should have and I said something quite insulting, which I regret.

The other thing is confidence, I am not a very confident person, I used to think I was just shy, but I have discovered that that is something entirely different, confidence is a thing I have very little of.

[greypilgrim]

I know what you're talking about legoman! I often assign nicknames to people throughout my days, that I'm (having to, sometimes!) interact with..here's an example:
Dead Mike
Dennis the Penniss
Greeeeg!
Cuttthroat Scotty
Mark the Shark
-->sometimes people get pissed at me, mostly, they laugh. Does getting pissed mean taking the mick out of someone? Just wondering. I hate doing that, insulting someone on accident..
It gets at me you could say.
:rolleyes:

--> And i know what you mean about confidence too. I used to have extreme self confidence issues. Not anymore though! Passes with time usually, for me at least!

Elbereth, I didn't skip over you, I'm not really trying to help anyone, just talk is all. hehe, I do lots of that!:D

[Elbereth]

Don't worry GP...I didn't expect you to give me advice on my problems. So don't worry...I didn't feel left out.


I have actually come to terms with my faults and have learned to accept them as the strange quirks that make me...me. Normally, if I really do not like something about me, I accept the fact that it is a problem and then do my best to change it.

For example, when I was younger, I was very timid and shy...and people started calling me the "quiet one"...or the "smart shy girl"....I hated that! :mad: So what did I do...I joined lots of clubs (drama, community service clubs) and I even ran for student body president...forcing myself to get out there and overcome my shy tendancies. And after a few years of doing this...I did overcome my shyness.

[legoman]

Does getting pissed mean taking the mick out of someone?
depends,

you could be pissed off with someone which means in a bad mood with them. (sometimes said without the 'off' bit)

Or you could be pissed, which would mean you are drunk.

or you could take the **** out of someone, which means take the mick, laugh at, poke fun at, however you say it.

So it depends on the context really. Hehe, we really make this language business hard don't we!

[tookish-girl]

I think I sound too much like a know-it-all most of the time, that's my way of being enthusiastic about things, by telling eople what I know. I don't like that about myself.

Also, I get scared about really stupid things. Talking on the telephone to people who I don't know is one because I start to talk about things in a really round-about way and that confuses them. This is really bad becuase I've got work placements to find and it all involves finding things out over the phone. And talking to very important people.
Maybe I should do tele-sales, that'd snap me out of it!

[greypilgrim]

I trust other people too easily, and that gets at me sometimes.

[lossenandunewen]

those people that talk in ebonics or whatever. that bothers me sooo much.. and people who were born and raised in a country but can't speak a single word of the language.

also people who do nothing but complain or talk down to you.

[Snaga]

I suck in lots of ways. The main things about me that I hate is that I am incapable of finishing any project I start.

Also I am **** at keeping friends cos I never think they like me so I end up not keeping in touch cos I assume they wont want to. Even tho when I think objectively I know they do... so it ends up with them thinking I dont like them... How stupid is that?

Also I never ask for help even when I need it.

Also the other main thing is that I have my serious personality and my fun, messing about kind of personality and I can't seem to get them to work together. That sounds schizophrenic but its not like that... I can't explain but sometimes lose my sense of humour and I hate it when I get like that.

Can I get a personality transplant anywhere round here?

[Aulë]

Hippies.

I hate the blighters:rolleyes:

[tookish-girl]

Hey, man! Me and lego are hippies! What's wrong with that?

[Aulë]

I should be more precise then.

The hippies who never shower, have dreadlocks, and protest at anything that moves.

[Snaga]

Has this turned into a 'Things I hate' thread? I thought this was a 'Things I Wish I Could Change About Myself' thread?:confused:

[Elbereth]

No Snaga...I think people are starting to loose the point of the thread. You are in the right! ;)

[legoman]

Am I a hippy?
hang on?
erm, *thinks of the values they represent*
yup most of them sound pretty cool actually. And the musics damn good too.

OK perhaps you're right Tookish, I'll let you off this time...

[Wonko The Sane]

Petty squabbles.
And people who can't put aside their difference and learn to be friends!

[legoman]

dude, we're supposed to be naming things that get at us about ourselves. We'd be here forever if we were supposed to name things about other people that annoy us!

[Wonko The Sane]

Oh...

Oh.
Ok.

Things that get me about me: People get the wrong impression of me, I'm too loud, I'm not funny, I'm annoying, I'm not nice, I take jokes too far, I'm fat, I'm unattractive, I'm lazy, I have issues...

Shall I continue?

[legoman]

yes, please do...
I'm taking notes...

[Snaga]

Originally posted by Wonko The Sane
Oh...

Oh.
Ok.

Things that get me about me: People get the wrong impression of me, I'm too loud, I'm not funny, I'm annoying, I'm not nice, I take jokes too far, I'm fat, I'm unattractive, I'm lazy, I have issues...

Shall I continue? To that list I say: True but that's their problem, not true, not true, not true, not true, not often, not true, SO TOTALLY NOT TRUE, hmm... possibly! - tho not when you're motivated, if so it is that you put yourself down too much....

[Wonko The Sane]

*Continue's for Legoman's benefit*

I also hate that I get so winded when I walk places, and I hate my fashion sense (or lack there of), and I AM fat, and I hate my thighs, and I hate my tummy, and let's see, my hair is too long, my eyes are too green, my lips teeth are too big, and I don't have a chin!

[Aulë]

Ooo!
Can I take notes too?


And Miles, I'm going to add you to my list of pessimistic TTF members....;)

[greypilgrim]

Originally posted by Aulë
I should be more precise then.

The hippies who never shower, have dreadlocks, and protest at anything that moves.
Funny you should mention that...I counter-protested a peace demonstration here in goodol' Cleveland after 9/11 and i was all alone there, carrying a big red sign:
Bullets for Terrorists it said, with pictures.

Now there were like 50 or so anti-war, anti-bush, anti everything good and justified in the war against terror, and I was on the other side of the street yelling at them for like an hour or so...I loved it! (so fun)hehe, Those hippies get at me too!:mad:

[lossenandunewen]

also little kids who run into you thinking they can knock you over or something.. They always think they can knock me over, like run into me with their shoulders and move me but they can't.. it's really funny.. they usually end up getting knocked.

[Wonko The Sane]

We're supposed to be posting what we hate about ourselves!!!

And so I give you this:
Me looking dumb and fat (http://www.thetolkienforum.com/attachment.php?s=&postid=294478)

What annoys me most about me is my ability to look PREGNANT and stupid when I'm not pregnant at all.
(But certainly stupid)

[DGoeij]

That last post contained a picture of a very attractive young woman who considered herself fat.

Just because fashion magazines tend to dress up corpses in clothing no mental healthy person would wear in the first place, doesn't mean anybody having more living tissue attached to their bones is actually fat.

If you can walk up the stairs to the third floor of an office building without collapsing, you're healthy enough too.

And stupid people cannot convince me to vote for them in a Council of Nine election.;)

[menchu]

Wonko, DGoeij is so right. You should open your eyes and see it is just another market, no matter how they call it art. Some name houses even stop making clothes after a certain size... they cannot obligue people to feel bad by doing so.
You have a lot of time ahead and it seems -at least to me- that you should be glad about some other stuff right now... :p Don't pay attention to magazines.

And after all, you are not fat (even less reasons to complain, then! ;) )

[legoman]

Huh, ignore them wonko, if you want to think you're fat you go ahead, even if you're not I'll support you and tell everybody I know that you are fat! I mean, heck most girls your age say the same thing about themselves, and well, you would want to be different now would you... would you?... no, you want to be the same.. boring and the same!
Wonko the same.


hmm, but to keep this on track, one thing that annoys me about myself is that I get in a depressed mood about 3 times a year for one silly reason or another and then stop again for a reason just as silly, and its slowly starting again! grrr.

[Aulë]

"Wonko the same"

Ridgie Didge! Good call, legoman! :D

[Idril]

Wonks - you're not fat! You're healthy:) (and slouching in that pic:().

[Niniel]

Wonks, you're not fat at all! You look wonderful to me, really! Please don't feel bad about yourself for something which isn't even true, cause it's just not worth it.

[Wonko The Sane]

Well thanks to you all. Even Legsie and Pip, cos I know you were just trying to help.

I do feel unnattractive and stupid pretty much all the time though. :(

I don't like myself.

I especially hate my tendency to say stupid things. And I hate how nobody takes me seriously...
*sigh*

I'm just a big joke...

[legoman]

stop being silly wonko, you have to understand the facts.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, this is unnatractive:

http://www.thetolkienforum.com/attachment.php?s=&postid=265826

yours was just a picture.

[greypilgrim]

wonks you are like me alot...we're a joke that nobody gets but us! at least, I get it (my joke) and it's funny! I mean...whatever...

I hate the fact that I have a half burned tatto on my leg that I either have to get burned off totally or covered with another...probably the latter because the former is way too expensive! won't stop me from getting more tats though...

and I hate that I let lifes problems get at me, and let them go.
gotta start paying more attention to the most imprortant things...health and well-being. thats a gimme.

:)

[Wonko The Sane]

Dear Martin,
You're not ugly.
I LIKE the way you look.
Love,
Emilie


And GP, I'm NOT a joke. :( That's what I keep telling people.
But nobody takes me seriously.

I'm going to go stick my head in the oven.

*Comes back a few minutes later looking petulant and bitter.*

Damn thing's electric. :rolleyes:

[Elbereth]

You know Wonko, I used to beat myself up alot about how I look (I had bad hair, my skin is not as clear as I like...I am not as skinny or tall as some of the beauty's that pass me on the street) but after seeing you beat yourself up for (how long has it been...a week, two weeks?)...I realize that doing that sort of thing can only hurt yourself.

You need to realize Wonks, that you can't let popular culture's opinion on what is beauty make you think that you are not attractive...because you are a beautiful girl. In fact you are even more beautiful than those runway models...because you are healthy, intellegent, and have a great personality (and believe me...I've met some of those girls, they are dull and dumb as doornails)

I learned that you shouldn't judge yourself on other people's standards...I did before, and ended up being miserable for a very long time because I set standards that were too high for myself. You need to be happy with yourself...and if someone has a problem with that, then it is their problem. However, I have found that most people are not that judgemental and superficial and if you show that you are a real person, they will accept you for who you are. Be happy with what god gave you girl! You got alot going for you...don't criticize it...rejoice in it!
;)

[legoman]

Dear Martin,
You're not ugly.
I LIKE the way you look.
Love,
Emilie
yeah, sure.

whats wrong with being a joke. you can be a joke and yet also be serious you know. Thats the clever thing about jokes.

But anyway ignore me, elbererth is the genius advice giver today, I think she's digested a 'woman's weekly'.
Except her advice makes sense.

[lossenandunewen]

About me? okay then I guess the think I would have to hate about myself is i'm proud, and i'm agressive, and i'm stubborn as hell, and i have an inability to be serious for long amounts of time. yea. :)

[tookish-girl]

Seriousness is over-rated.

By the way, Wonks you're not ugly, you silly girl
Legoman, you're not ugly either, and I'll punch you if you say otherwise. (Punch you in the knees obviously!)

[legoman]

well looks like I'm getting some knee pads.

yup, serious-ness is most definately over-rated, more over rated than sliced bread, which if you ask me gets more than its fair share of catchphrases!

[tookish-girl]

Hey! That's my line! I wrote a whole newspaper article about why "Greatest thing since sliced bread" is overused because sliced bread really isn't that great when you think about it!

If I were you I'd keep your knees covered at all times!

[legoman]

Actually took, considering how long you've known me, you've only ever seen my knees at either PE or that football match were you supported the other team - *glares!*

yeah, slim changed that phrase to 'the best thing since motorhead' which is also weird cos they only really had one good song. Admittedly it is brilliant, but still.

[tookish-girl]

Actually I was supporting our team at that event. I just turned up because my friend was playing for the other team. I cheered on for us the whole time and got severly yelled at by his little brother.

By the way, are you aware that was 6 years ago?:confused:

[legoman]

NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
holy strawberries batman, I am old.

jeez. time to fall into a pit of memories...

really, that is scary.

still I will let you off, but you did only turn up cos you knew him, no one ever came to support our team. ever. even when we played at home. Except spacka's mum sometimes, or my dad when he came to pick me up.

[Wonko The Sane]

Your advice is good you guys...
But it doesn't change anything....

I'm still dumb. *looks at self* And gross.


Anyway, Legoman is soo tall...I'm not short and even I only reach up to his knees. ;)

[Aulë]

Oo! How tall is legoman???
9 foot? :P

And Wonks: NO!
You're wrong Wonks.
I've spoken to you now, and you don't sound ugly at all! :D

[Wonko The Sane]

I don't SOUND ugly?
That's SOO rubbish.
How do ugly people sound?
I mean...hush.
Radio talk show hosts don't sound ugly for the most part...but most of them are...


And Legoman is UBER-tall. About 14 foot or so. :)

[legoman]

yup, thats me, 14 foot 8 inches actually. But theres not a lot up here, and I get a bad neck from trying to use normal sized computers, very annoying.

But I'll tell you what, from up here wonks does not look ugly.


she looks like an ant.


Ant and Dec - 'Leeeeeeeeeeeeetttttttssssssss get ready to ruuuuuumble!!!!!!!'

PJ and Duncun - my eyes man, I cannee see, Geoff-man my eyes man!

[Narya]

What gets at me??? Hmmm... should I join the fray? What do you think, Elbs???


Oh why wait... I'm itching to join this forum again.:D

Ok, I think I should not be too trusting of people. And maybe be a little bit more lenient with RPG's (the last one really got out of hand). Plus, I should not be such a forgetful person. But that was caused by an overdose of anaesthesia...so I don't believe that should count.

[Wonko The Sane]

Oh, Legsieman...I MISS YOU! :) I wanna visit next time I'm out there. I had so much fun at Warwick and Leicester...:)

*sigh*


Things I hate about myself: I'm still sick. :( And I just wanna get better damnit! :(