Real Life Rantings! Argh!

[Narya]

You were a professional singer Narya? I am currently humming and hawing whether to go down that track now...(I sing opera/classical). Why must the late teens/early twenties seem to be the years where you make your most important desicions??? I don't KNOW enough yet!

yeah! Actually had an album out, but the label dropped me a few months after it's release. *sigh*

I'm writing music again and I am going back to singing soon, Yay has been the only one here to hear my new song (and my singing voice) through my multiply site. I tried to invite other people but the link didn't work. I don't know how to make it work.

As for singing, if its what you think of when you wake up in the morning -- THEN YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE THE SINGER, Girl! You are a girl... right?

I made my decision to be a professional singer after college. I was 20. You're timing is perfect!

[Firawyn]

@ Narya, you could save everyone alot of pain and build a website for your band - I know you can do it! ;)

@ Yay, the money thing. Careful buddy, sounds like you are getting, what's the term? "Walked all over". Give them an inch, they take a mile. And question - if you are so finacially stable, why even have a roomate?

[YayGollum]

It is my dream to have a tiny as well as one bedroom apartment, of course, but I haven't found anyplace at least halfway decent enough or cheap enough to afford yet. Also, I have no job up here yet. It, uh, seemed like a good idea, when I left. But then, I had an even worse roommate at my last place. This guy wants hundreds, that guy took thousands. :rolleyes: Yes, I am too generous. Got it. Which is why I am looking for new roommates! I'll get a job soon, I'm sure. No problems.

[Blerdie]

Narya-Yes I am a girl :p, well I was the last time I checked ;). I do love singing a lot, but the first thing I think about in the morning is "WHY DO I SET THAT ALARM SO DARNED EARLY!" Then I think about what I have to do in the day. :D

YayG-"blerdie person" sorry i laughed so much at that I couldn't read what else you had to say ;)


Blerdie person

[Narya]

Narya-Yes I am a girl :p, well I was the last time I checked ;). I do love singing a lot, but the first thing I think about in the morning is "WHY DO I SET THAT ALARM SO DARNED EARLY!" Then I think about what I have to do in the day. :D

YayG-"blerdie person" sorry i laughed so much at that I couldn't read what else you had to say ;)


Blerdie person


Oh... that is not even half of it, Blerdie...

- he talks like that by the way.

[Firawyn]

Yeah...you're "Narya Lady", I'm "That Crazy Firawyn Person"... :D

We love you Yay! :cool:

[AraCelebEarwen]

Yes, we do; keeps us on our toes, that one. :cool: Good luck finding a place/roommate, by the way, Yay. It's not an easy task. >.<

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My rant- I want to travel! I've got to stop spending money on this-and-that and start making enough that I can still pay rent while having plenty to stick away and use to escape one of these days! I've been working for two weeks now and I'll be getting my first check this week and if I spend it on 'stuff' again, I'll have a fit! I've never been bad about shopping, but all those stupid little things add up so much faster then you'd think! Even just the cost-of-living stuff is crazy for someone who hasn't had an income all summer! Can I live without spending anything more then bottom-line expenses? We're about to find out. I've had it with dreaming! Time goes by too fast! Time to kick myself into line and start getting somewhere for once! PRICES ARE MURDER!

[chrysophalax]

I'm either chrysophalax person or evil mom lady, so no worries, Blerdie!;)

[Narya]

I'm either chrysophalax person or evil mom lady, so no worries, Blerdie!;)


lol! Honestly, Chrys, that broodling of yours is absolutely hilarious. :D

[YayGollum]

It is a matter of course. Anyways, an Unrant ---> I have been collecting many double-takes. I have been wearing my horns from this picture. ---> http://www.thetolkienforum.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=398&d=1021947010 Lots of people in cars slowing down to make sure. Lots of, "Dude, nice horns!" ("Of course.") "Dude, what's with the horns?" ("'Tis the season?") and, "Dude, where'd you get the horns?" ("They're from my mother's side.") I plan on wearing them for the entire month. Mayhaps I should do it for December, too, after cutting some holes in a Santa hat?

[Illuin]

by YayGollum
I have been collecting many double-takes. I have been wearing my horns from this picture.


Nice horns! By the way, who are the others in the picture?



by chrysophalax
I'm either chrysophalax person or evil mom lady



Also, how long to I have to be here to receive an official YayGollum designation? He's been way to nice to me :p.

[YayGollum]

From left to right, there's some guy that was at one time my evil older sister's boyfriend or husband (might even still be. I don't know my evil older sister very well), my evil older sister (called Nildadari here, but she is not around), my evil mom lady (the chrysophalax person), carrying my shoulder dragon (Mad Max, turned into an ice drake character here, but hasn't gotten any R. P. G. time yet), myself, the only one gracious enough to identify himself, and my evil younger sister (calling herself something like Emerald_Took here, but she is also not around). I don't know the names of those shoulder griffins. Mad Max is great to take around malls. He likes to nip at the paws of children, though.

Towards obtaining your official YayGollum designation ---> Those other people are crazy. I usually add the superly neutral "person" after everybody's nameses, since I am fairly certain that the names they go by here are not their real names, and merely calling them that seems like a lie. When somebody tells me that they are actually female, I'll usually add a "lady" instead. Nobody calls me the YayGollum gentleman, though. *sniff* :rolleyes: The Firawyn person (do I usually call her crazy? Mayhaps she just keeps acting crazy?) doesn't get called a lady because she reminds me of someone who hated being called that. Ah, so, you don't get one. Unless you're planning on becoming a lady, I guess.

[Narya]

From left to right, there's some guy that was at one time my evil older sister's boyfriend or husband (might even still be. I don't know my evil older sister very well), my evil older sister (called Nildadari here, but she is not around), my evil mom lady (the chrysophalax person), carrying my shoulder dragon (Mad Max, turned into an ice drake character here, but hasn't gotten any R. P. G. time yet), myself, the only one gracious enough to identify himself, and my evil younger sister (calling herself something like Emerald_Took here, but she is also not around). I don't know the names of those shoulder griffins. Mad Max is great to take around malls. He likes to nip at the paws of children, though.

Towards obtaining your official YayGollum designation ---> Those other people are crazy. I usually add the superly neutral "person" after everybody's nameses, since I am fairly certain that the names they go by here are not their real names, and merely calling them that seems like a lie. When somebody tells me that they are actually female, I'll usually add a "lady" instead. Nobody calls me the YayGollum gentleman, though. *sniff* :rolleyes: The Firawyn person (do I usually call her crazy? Mayhaps she just keeps acting crazy?) doesn't get called a lady because she reminds me of someone who hated being called that. Ah, so, you don't get one. Unless you're planning on becoming a lady, I guess.


HAHAHA! What a crazy explanation on something that's already crazy to begin with. You should have had that title a long time ago = THE CRAZY YAYGOLLUM GUY = but it's too long to write. And no, you're too young to be given the title gentleman. I have earned the title Lady methinks. In a couple of years, and if you stop talking like that, maybe someone will actually address you as a gentleman. For now, you're Crazy boy, T, or the most appropriate one, Yay. :D

Illuin, you were called the Illuin person many times, but who knows, now that you are RPGing with him, he'll call you something else real soon.

...And so will we! :p

[chrysophalax]

I would definitely run with the Santa hat idea! :D And, of course the horns are from my side! *toothy Dragon grin*

[Illuin]

Are you guys really Mom and Son? Come on! For real? That is so cool. I wish my Mom (though I love her dearly; and she's quite a bit older) would RPG with me; that is great!

[Gilthoniel]

Nobody calls me the YayGollum gentleman, though.

I am now going to refer to you as the wily YayGollum gentleman.. You shouldn't have to miss out because of your genius!
;)

[Firawyn]

Are you guys really Mom and Son? Come on! For real? That is so cool. I wish my Mom (though I love her dearly; and she's quite a bit older) would RPG with me; that is great!

Yup they are...:D

I keep forgetting you're newer around here Illuin...you act like an old-timer.

[Narya]

RANT: I don't understand why my brothers don't love us. They seem to have more love for other people than their family. I know that we haven't had a perfect life, but we did great as far as standards go. I just don't get why they give more importance to people who are only good to them when they;re on top of the world.

It makes me want to punch them in the face! :mad:

[YayGollum]

And I don't get why some people place more importance on those who happen to be related to them, than those who may have earned a better standing with them elsewise. Oh, they had a hand in raising you. Oh, you grew up together. So what? Why forgive one person for way more horrible things done, when you'd just get fed up with someone not in your family? :confused:

[Narya]

And I don't get why some people place more importance on those who happen to be related to them, than those who may have earned a better standing with them elsewise. Oh, they had a hand in raising you. Oh, you grew up together. So what? Why forgive one person for way more horrible things done, when you'd just get fed up with someone not in your family? :confused:


This is where culture comes in. Filipinos are more into family than Americans I think. Here, we are clannish-at least, I am. I grew up believing that my family is my fortress, even if I mess up my whole life, I can always come home to my Mama and Papa, and they will accept me and love me unconditionally. And I have made quite a mess of my life before, and I didn't even think twice. I came home and there they were, with open arms, no judgments.

My brothers know that, because when they're in trouble, they come home to Ma and Pa. But when things start looking up again, they forget about us. That's my gripe. I don't expect anyone outside our family to actually understand this, but I'm really, really angry right now.

Added note: I also want to add that in the Philippines, kids are not obliged to leave their parent's house-ever. If they don't want to stay anymore, then that's fine, but as long as they want to stay with Mom and Dad, the kids aren't forced to get a place of their own. In many cases, even when they're married, the kids live with their parents until the parents die.

[YayGollum]

Well, why be clannish? Why get used to crutches? Anyways, is the gripe that the brothers are acting too American, distancing themselves too much from the clan, or that they most probably feel the same way you do, but they're just being a bit neglectful, at the moment? But then, you also mentioned that they are mostly caring about people who only seem to be taking advantage of them. That makes them stupid. I have heard that there is no cure. No doubt, you have already attempted to point out their behavior, and it didn't work. If so, what else is there to do but inform them that you told them so, when things get tougher?

[Narya]

Well, why be clannish? Why get used to crutches? Anyways, is the gripe that the brothers are acting too American, distancing themselves too much from the clan, or that they most probably feel the same way you do, but they're just being a bit neglectful, at the moment? But then, you also mentioned that they are mostly caring about people who only seem to be taking advantage of them. That makes them stupid. I have heard that there is no cure. No doubt, you have already attempted to point out their behavior, and it didn't work. If so, what else is there to do but inform them that you told them so, when things get tougher?


Why be clannish? Why not? If it works, I'll try anything. Plus, I have tried to deviate from that and it didn't work for me. I used to think it was a disabling thing, too, but after I almost destroyed my own life (and believe me, I got very close to ending it) it was the clannish thing that got me thinking straight again and got me back to the right track.

As for my brothers, they are being stupid and negligent on purpose, and what really ticks me is that they are only like that when things are looking up for them. But when things start looking bad, they come home, ask for help and be good for a time, until things look up again. Then they forget us and ignore their old, and ailing parents.

[YayGollum]

Well, Yay for knowing at least some reliable family members. Just don't think less of those who form clans out of non-family members. I don't see why blood being thicker than water should make horrible people any more reliable to their family members. Makes no sense. Anyways, your brothers would show up to help you out, if you asked for it, yes? No? I am unaware. If you aren't looking for their help at the moment, why worry about the evil people they deal with? That's their stupid business, which is the sort of thing to cause them trouble and get them to come back. :rolleyes: But okay. Sounds as if you wish for them to take time out of their busy and currently way more fun schedules to socialize with their family members. Hm. Am attempting to think up a way to defend your point of view. :rolleyes: It's unfair. Pure evil. They totally owe you! Um, I think that I am not the right person for this one. *hides* :rolleyes:

[Narya]

Well, Yay for knowing at least some reliable family members. Just don't think less of those who form clans out of non-family members. I don't see why blood being thicker than water should make horrible people any more reliable to their family members. Makes no sense. Anyways, your brothers would show up to help you out, if you asked for it, yes? No? I am unaware. If you aren't looking for their help at the moment, why worry about the evil people they deal with? That's their stupid business, which is the sort of thing to cause them trouble and get them to come back. :rolleyes: But okay. Sounds as if you wish for them to take time out of their busy and currently way more fun schedules to socialize with their family members. Hm. Am attempting to think up a way to defend your point of view. :rolleyes: It's unfair. Pure evil. They totally owe you! Um, I think that I am not the right person for this one. *hides* :rolleyes:


I know you're not since I know a lot about you (well, anyway, based on the stuff you've shared). It's not just the socialization, T. It's something else. Something that you will never fully understand. :(

Yeah, but anyway, I'm still angry.

Have you seen the Disney Film, Lilo & Stitch? The situation here is similar to that. OHANA means family. Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten. Cheesy, but it's true... to us classic Filipino families anyway.

[Firawyn]

I know you're not since I know a lot about you (well, anyway, based on the stuff you've shared). It's not just the socialization, T. It's something else. Something that you will never fully understand. :(

Yeah, but anyway, I'm still angry.

Have you seen the Disney Film, Lilo & Stitch? The situation here is similar to that. OHANA means family. Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten. Cheesy, but it's true... to us classic Filipino families anyway.

Narya,

I've seen Lilo & Stitch, and I do see where you're coming from...but sometimes families are so screwed up that being involved with them is more a risk to your sanity than anything else. Sometimes, it's not worth it. And some people arn't lucky enough to have normal families - with a mom and a dad and some brothers and sisters and neices and nephews, etc. I'm not one to judge, but from what I know about you (not much, looking forward to learning more), I think that "T" and I understand things much the same way...and that's something that you will very likely "never fully understand". :(

Blood may be thicker than water, but mud is thicker than both. If you'd lived a life like mine or T's, you'd be less upset with your brothers... probably because you just wouldn't care.

Fir-

[Narya]

Narya,

I've seen Lilo & Stitch, and I do see where you're coming from...but sometimes families are so screwed up that being involved with them is more a risk to your sanity than anything else. Sometimes, it's not worth it. And some people arn't lucky enough to have normal families - with a mom and a dad and some brothers and sisters and neices and nephews, etc. I'm not one to judge, but from what I know about you (not much, looking forward to learning more), I think that "T" and I understand things much the same way...and that's something that you will very likely "never fully understand". :(

Blood may be thicker than water, but mud is thicker than both. If you'd lived a life like mine or T's, you'd be less upset with your brothers... probably because you just wouldn't care.

Fir-



I couldn't agree more. Well, I'm just gonna leave it up to time. Hopefully, things will sort themselves out.

[Firawyn]

I couldn't agree more. Well, I'm just gonna leave it up to time. Hopefully, things will sort themselves out.

It usually does.

[Illuin]

Feeling cranky the past few days. I just put my house on the market, and I plan to leave NY and head for the mountains in Tennessee. I have found a "possible" nice home, and have some job invitations for some schools, but I feel sad. Just a few days ago, some dude in a white truck walked into my front yard with a posthole digger. Not knowing who the heck this guy was, I said to him; "Excuse me, can I help you with something"? He replied; "Oh, I’m just putting up the Realtor sign". Right then, my heart almost stopped, and the reality set in. I felt like I was going to throw up. Just feel very sad. And now with the market the way it is, who knows what is going to happen. Even though Chattanooga is great, I've gotten used to this place and have made many friends. Not exactly my usual chipper self lately. http://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Sad/sad-029.gif

[Firawyn]

Why are you moving, Illuin? Just ready for a change or something?

[Illuin]

by Firawyn
Why are you moving, Illuin? Just ready for a change or something?


Well, because the cost of living has become (as Spock would say) “Not Logical”. I have a 1,600 Sq. Ft home in an urban area (that is not so special) and I pay over $9,000.00 a year in property taxes alone. A house almost three times as big (4,400 Sq. Ft); with property twice the size (over an acre) in Chattanooga (a beautiful location) has property taxes that do not top $1700.00. Also, my salary would basically remain the same. Yes, of course…smart move; but I will miss my friends, and of course the closeness and intimacy of my home for so long.

For example; I (and a few of my very talented friends) completely remodeled the basement. It’s not like a basement now; it’s the most beautiful part of the house. Between the game room and the living room, there was a wall. We all said that an awesome aquarium should split the rooms; and it was done. A beautiful 120 gallon reef aquarium separates the two rooms, and I can actually watch the HD TV from my office “through the aquarium” (the wall that split’s the rooms - quite an impressive effect). My whole dragon layout (remember Wesley Snipes giant history "Lionel train model" in Murder at 1600?). I have the same layout - but mine is a dragon forest - with many beautiful miniature dragons. How am I going to break down, transport, and re-assemble that? The whole scenario is finally becoming a reality; and I am upset. My eight cats that I love; and the five strays I have taken care of for years; what will happen to them; who will take care of them? Well, I'm a bit uneasy to say the least :mad:.

[e.Blackstar]

One of my best friends who I love and miss very much (haven't seen her in the two months since I moved) was supposed to come see me this weekend, but now her father may not let her! :mad::mad::mad::mad:

[Firawyn]

At Illuin - love Spock, but logical is not always the right thing to do. *shrug* I wish you the best of luck in your ventures.

At Blackstar - Ouch. I'm sorry. That bites. :(

[Durin's Bane]

"Quit my job this morning, said forever I would hold my head up high"

Couldn't work and study at the same time... simply not enough time for both, so I did quit my job. Now I'm forced to live with my mother and her boyfriend and call my father for money... Life's so good when you live alone... listening to Metallica- Fade to Black at the moment, playing and singing along with Hetfield... Anyway, hope I have enough time to study now :rolleyes:

[Eledhwen]

Illuin, you have made something beautiful where you are; do you not believe you can make something beautiful in Chattanooga too? Sometimes an artist must sell a painting to live; but it leaves him free to contemplate a fresh canvas.

You will make new friends, but you will not lose your old ones. You won't see them very often; but the new friends will fill the gaps between the visits of (and to) the old.

[Noldor_returned]

That's a really good analogy/metaphor. I too hate change and am dreading the moment when my school life is over, but yeah, that's a good way of putting it.

[Narya]

I'm loosing my mind...

...I hate my life

[Gilthoniel]

AARGH! Two best friends - One going out with the other. He goes off to Africa for his gap year, she goes to uni, they stay together. He starts going out with this other girl in his group, tells me, and tells me not to tell her. She makes me promise that if he cheats, I tell her...

WHAT DO I DO?!
:eek:

And Narya: Big hugs to you, and everyone who needs one! I know internet hugs are no practical use, especially when losing one's mind, but we're all just a PM away if you need a chat!
:)

[Mike]

As for me, toooo many assignments, too much reading, not getting the marks I want in some classes because there's just too much of everything. I'm sure I'll be fine when I pull through, but right now my life feels like a bundle of stress and not enough chocolate to fend of a sense of impending doom.

"Life sucks...again."

[Firawyn]

AARGH! Two best friends - One going out with the other. He goes off to Africa for his gap year, she goes to uni, they stay together. He starts going out with this other girl in his group, tells me, and tells me not to tell her. She makes me promise that if he cheats, I tell her...

WHAT DO I DO?!
:eek:



Gil,

My advice is this: Ask yourself what you think it the right thing to do. If you think that it's wrong for your friend to be cheating, then tell the girl. If you think what he's doing is okay, then don't. Don't think about loyalty, think about what the right thing to do, in your mind, is.

And another point: if she already asked you to tell her if he cheated, then she already suspects it herself, and it will hardly be to either of their benefits if they do not have enough trust in their relationship, to hide it for the sake of them "not braking up".

One more note: Refuse to play the middle man! It's not fair to you, and immature of them.

Hope that helps. Been there a few times myself. :)


@ Narya,

What's going on sweety?



Vent of my own for the week:

I AM TIRED OF BEING A PARENT TO MY FREAKING PARENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Gilthoniel]

Thanks for your advice, Fir. It's been really helpful. I just got off the phone with another friend of the couple, and we both decided that we'd speak to the guy, tell him to tell his girlfriend, and that if he proceeds on a course of action that's going to hurt her any more than is absolutley impossible to avoid, we're going to act with her welfare in mind, whatever may be necessary at the time. But, for now we're going to wash our hands of it all, and let him make the right decision (hopefully).

It's sucky, I know, and part of me wants to go straight to her, part of me wants to slap him but help him cover it up ('cos they are so great together, normally - unlikely though it may seem), and part wants to act as a mediator. I can only hope that things work out, and that we've done the right thing. Hopefully this way, by giving him the chance to do right out of his own volition, things aren't going to be a total trainwreck.

[Narya]

Unrant: Life is good again. Am sane. :)

Thanks for the hugs, Gil. Virtual or not, they mean a lot to me.

And to Fir... my precious... I'm okay. Was so down in the dumps, but I've picked up the pieces of my life again and I'm gonna make sure this is the end of the blues.

[chrysophalax]

Gil, put yourself in the girl's place. If you had been cheated on and you found out that someone else knew and didn't tell you, how would you feel? I, personally, would be homicidal.

Fir's advice is much the same as mine. Never play the middle man! It can only end badly.

[YayGollum]

An Unrant ---> It was totally snowing, and it isn't even especially cold. Snowing in October? Craziness. I am used to only mayhaps one day or two days of snow in February. :rolleyes: Many enjoyable opportunities to wonder at how much nicer it is here than where I'm from, with the horns I've been wearing. :rolleyes:

[Firawyn]

Gil, put yourself in the girl's place. If you had been cheated on and you found out that someone else knew and didn't tell you, how would you feel? I, personally, would be homicidal.

Fir's advice is much the same as mine. Never play the middle man! It can only end badly.

And Gil, Chrys is serious about that. :eek: ;)

@ Chrys...didn't I just said something in another thread...NO! It was one of the social groups, I said I agreed with you "pretty much". Haha, karma.

[YayGollum]

Rant ---> I still have no job, but I found myself in a bookstore. There were lots of books that I would like to buy. I have to stave off the boredom via the thrill of abstinence!

Unrant ---> On the other paw, I finally found one of those The Letters Of J. R. R. Tolkien books and couldn't really help buying it, since I've never seen it beyond old and signed and expensive copies. Mayhaps I shall come up with a few more crazy theories? That The Children Of Hurin didn't help me much.

[Firawyn]

Rant that seems lame now after seeing Yay's rant:

My boss is a Nazi! I've worked for alot of nutcases in my time but this woman just takes the top. I'm working at a Dog Kennel again (if some of you remember, I did that for several years back east), which I truly enjoy, but this woman treats me like another dog. I get yelled at like the other dogs (usually because I didn't correct a dog for whatever soon enough for her liking, so it's funny as hell that I get yelled at for when a dog is disobedient), I get looked down on (literally and figuratively), and no matter how good of a job I do, she ALWAYS finds something to pitch a fit about. My self esteem has never been sky high, but I've been working on being more confident in myself the last year, and working around this woman, all that I've gained in that year is very quickly spiraling into nonexistence again.

I don't know what to do. Do I start looking for another job and sacrifice what I would rather be doing for a boss that wont rub me into the dirt like a pile of dog dung, or do I stick it out and hope to GOD that one day very soon she wakes up and realizes how much of of jerk she is and is nicer? I could care less if she apologizes for what past, but I'm having a hard time dealing with her, while she finds the way she treats me as acceptable.

[Mike]

Quit and become a wandering minstrel. That always works.

[Gilthoniel]

You joke - That seems like a very real option for me at the moment.
:confused:

[Firawyn]

Quit and become a wandering minstrel. That always works.


And how exactly would I feed myself, pray tell? :eek:

[Illuin]

by Firawyn
"I don't know what to do. Do I start looking for another job and sacrifice what I would rather be doing for a boss that wont rub me into the dirt like a pile of dog dung"


Of course you should; life is way too short, and why deal with stupid people. Find another job first (FIRST... that's key), and then flip this crusty crab the bird.

[chrysophalax]

Then I get to eat her!:D

[Sidhe]

Rant that seems lame now after seeing Yay's rant:

My boss is a Nazi! I've worked for alot of nutcases in my time but this woman just takes the top. I'm working at a Dog Kennel again (if some of you remember, I did that for several years back east), which I truly enjoy, but this woman treats me like another dog. I get yelled at like the other dogs (usually because I didn't correct a dog for whatever soon enough for her liking, so it's funny as hell that I get yelled at for when a dog is disobedient), I get looked down on (literally and figuratively), and no matter how good of a job I do, she ALWAYS finds something to pitch a fit about. My self esteem has never been sky high, but I've been working on being more confident in myself the last year, and working around this woman, all that I've gained in that year is very quickly spiraling into nonexistence again.

I don't know what to do. Do I start looking for another job and sacrifice what I would rather be doing for a boss that wont rub me into the dirt like a pile of dog dung, or do I stick it out and hope to GOD that one day very soon she wakes up and realizes how much of of jerk she is and is nicer? I could care less if she apologizes for what past, but I'm having a hard time dealing with her, while she finds the way she treats me as acceptable.

My boss was also like that, it came to ahead when I walked out and was persuaded to come back and talk about it. She got a reprimand and tried at least to stop making the job any more soul destroying than it already was. The way she acted you'd of thought it was a Victorian work house? :rolleyes:

[Barliman Butterbur]

I don't know what to do. Do I start looking for another job and sacrifice what I would rather be doing for a boss that wont rub me into the dirt like a pile of dog dung, or do I stick it out and hope to GOD that one day very soon she wakes up and realizes how much of of jerk she is and is nicer?

She will never (consciously) realize she's a jerk. She already knows it unconsciously. She'll never change, she gets too many rewards that boost her fragile ego for being the way she is.

So: first find a place you'd like to work where they show respect. Next, start being as vile to her as she is to you. Don't take one more second of guano from her. She'll either fire you, or you'll terrorize her. And a few other things:

• Let her catch you staring at her with a demented look on your face.
• Let her overhear you saying strange things to the animals.
• Repeat whatever she says to you in a mumbling monotone while you gaze into space.
• Drool.
• Effect a total goth look.
• Occasionally emit an insane giggle.

Then, when she finally fires you, tell her, "I'll be back..." and break into screaming laughter that gets all the animals upset and trying to escape their cages.

I'm sure you can think of other things...

Barley

[Illuin]

by Barley
She will never (consciously) realize she's a jerk. She already knows it unconsciously. She'll never change, she gets too many rewards that boost her fragile ego for being the way she is.

So: first find a place you'd like to work where they show respect. Next, start being as vile to her as she is to you. Don't take one more second of guano from her. She'll either fire you, or you'll terrorize her. And a few other things:

• Let her catch you staring at her with a demented look on your face.
• Let her overhear you saying strange things to the animals.
• Repeat whatever she says to you in a mumbling monotone while you gaze into space.
• Drool.
• Effect a total goth look.
• Occasionally emit an insane giggle.

Then, when she finally fires you, tell her, "I'll be back..." and break into screaming laughter that gets all the animals upset and trying to escape their cages.

I'm sure you can think of other things...


:D


That’s actually what I wanted to say, but I decided to tone it down a bit, not because I disagree, but I’m still young enough to be a slave to the very same idiots. It’s even worse with the school board; and that’s the honest truth. Absolute fascism is infecting the education system (disguised as far-left, liberal tolerance). Gross. I’m about to quit myself and go back to the simple, peaceful job of Land Surveying. It didn’t pay quite as much, but I was genuinely happy. I say, get away from that crazed woman, and do something you like (regardless of pay); but find the alternative FIRST….before you quit; or else you may enter a financial pickle that becomes really scary.

[Firawyn]

She will never (consciously) realize she's a jerk. She already knows it unconsciously. She'll never change, she gets too many rewards that boost her fragile ego for being the way she is.

So: first find a place you'd like to work where they show respect. Next, start being as vile to her as she is to you. Don't take one more second of guano from her. She'll either fire you, or you'll terrorize her. And a few other things:

• Let her catch you staring at her with a demented look on your face.
• Let her overhear you saying strange things to the animals.
• Repeat whatever she says to you in a mumbling monotone while you gaze into space.
• Drool.
• Effect a total goth look.
• Occasionally emit an insane giggle.

Then, when she finally fires you, tell her, "I'll be back..." and break into screaming laughter that gets all the animals upset and trying to escape their cages.

I'm sure you can think of other things...

Barley

*laughts very hard*

This is very funny because, Barley my freind, I know that you know me well enough to know that I might just do some of those things.

Good ideas!

[Illuin]

by Firawyn
This is very funny because, Barley my freind, I know that you know me well enough to know that I might just do some of those things.


Just to be safe; find something else first. I've been there. Don't just storm out and say "screw you" before you have something else lined up. It's all just fun and games on the surface; but reality is what it is. Find a job that doesn’t bum you out. You are an intelligent bookworm….Borders books wouldn’t be so bad; would it? I’m a professor at a community college, and I actually applied to Borders Books. I work there on Saturday’s now. It’s fun. I covertly order some Tolkien collectables for geeks (like us) as well. I have worked with Save-A-Pet for 13 years, but I would never put up with some maniac freak show; as you do. That indeed is not a “TRUE” animal lover…that’s a fake…out to make some coin. Time to move on. You're too smart for that BS.

[Firawyn]

That's really sweet Illuin. :o Thanks, for the compliments and the advice.

[YayGollum]

Well, see, it didn't look difficult to get a job before I moved. :rolleyes: There were lots of job openings in the hospitals, and I had two people who had worked in them and were planning on helping me out. Alas, I have been unlucky. Has my luck dried up? I used to be very lucky. oh well. Mayhaps I should try for obtaining employment in bookstores. Ah, and people hire at high frequencies at this time of year, yes? I think that is the myth. We shall see.

[Illuin]

by YayGollum
There were lots of job openings in the hospitals, and I had two people who had worked in them and were planning on helping me out.


Funny you should bring that up. I lost big time recently in the market (maybe why I’ve been such a crab). However, bartending is what paid for my college. Hopefully, my job is somewhat secure (I think it is), but if it wasn’t; the first place I would look is within the Hospitals. With an economy this dire, Hospitals and Bars are the only places secure jobs will be held (people drink more when things are bad…and they also get sick). In 1998-2000, I taught bartending at a bartending school (as trifle as it sounds). But it certainly may come in handy when recession (or depression) times are among us. Getting involved in a Hospital, whether it be janitorial, or maybe taking a semester to become a Phlebotomist; or even a job within the housecleaning department. At least you’re in the door, and have a job that you are very unlikely to lose. I’m worried that I am going to lose mine. I have a good reputation, and the students love me, but I certainly do not have tenure yet. My head is on the block as well. My advice, grab anything you can at the moment, and get in the door somewhere…anywhere. It’s going to get worse soon…much worse. This is a warning to my fellow Tolkien friends.

[YayGollum]

A warning that I heard many times and quite flippantly disregarded. Yes, hospitals are awesome for being reliable in that way. I thought that it would be easy. Why did I leave the evil Florida and my nice job behind? Ah, yes. The heat and the people. There is no heat here, I'm still waiting for it to get cold up here, and the people are much better. Mayhaps the stupidity of the Southerners was all that got me the job down there? :rolleyes: oh well. Okay, so mayhaps I could apply to a few more hospital positions. Transporter or food guy or something. I couldn't be a bartender. That's for sociable people.

[Illuin]

by YayGollum
I couldn't be a bartender. That's for sociable people.


I don't know; you've always come across a sociable to me.

[YayGollum]

*recoils* Ick. No, not myself. One of my dreams is to obtain a small one bedroom apartment within walking distance to my job, some restaurants, and some bookstores. With only the mail to intrude. Ah...would be nice. I'm already forced to deal with humans because I'm not self-reliant. Horrible food vendors, with their small talk! What's their angle?

[Illuin]

by YayGollum
*recoils* Ick. No, not myself. One of my dreams is to obtain a small one bedroom apartment within walking distance to my job, some restaurants, and some bookstores. With only the mail to intrude. Ah...would be nice. I'm already forced to deal with humans because I'm not self-reliant. Horrible food vendors, with their small talk! What's their angle?


Yes, but who was it that made first contact with me in this very forum? That says quite a bit. You may think so, but you are the furthest thing from “unsociable”

[YayGollum]

Was it me? I don't remember. Furthest thing from unsociable? Craziness. My reasons for being here have been typed clearly. I read some Tolkien stories a while ago, couldn't find anyone to share my crazy ideas with, and searched until I found the best website for it. This place is a wall for ideas to bounced from, and some brains are more useful than others. The unsociable doesn't have to be shy or anything. They just don't crave companionship at all hours. Ick.

[Illuin]

by YayGollum
Was it me? I don't remember. Furthest thing from unsociable? Craziness. My reasons for being here have been typed clearly. I read some Tolkien stories a while ago, couldn't find anyone to share my crazy ideas with, and searched until I found the best website for it. This place is a wall for ideas to bounced from, and some brains are more useful than others. The unsociable doesn't have to be shy or anything. They just don't crave companionship at all hours. Ick.


Ha ha; yes it was you. You were somewhat intrigued by my outlandish Tom Bombadil theories in relation to Aulë. But as far as I’m concerned, you are the “social” and primary creative force behind this forum. I think everyone else recognizes that fact as well. I think you could consider yourself (regarding popular opinion), a “sociable person” :D.

[YayGollum]

Got it. I went back and read the thing. Yavanna and Aule as Goldberry and Tom Bombadil? Craziness. Goldberry and Aule are way better than that. :rolleyes: Anyways, yes, it is a classic rant of mine that I become well-known wherever I go. I hate it. Popularity is stifling. I have gone on many vacations from my computer due to the stuff. And they always remember me for a long time and hound me. No fun. I can reminisce about some cool humans I've known, but I don't go bothering them once they've moved away or something. Social and primary creative force behind this forum, and everyone else recognizes the idea? *looks pleadingly towards everyone else* He's just crazy, yes? If it is true, I would apologize for not being better at my job. I know plenty of things that I could do to improve the place, but I am lazy. See? Not good enough. There are better people, if you're looking for the overly sociable sort. *runs away*

[chrysophalax]

Transporter and/or call center operator would be a great job for you with your mellow baritone voice, Yay. Am a bit surprised you haven't tried for either job yet and remember, there's always the gift shop!;)

[Firawyn]

I could see you as a security guard, Yay. Ever consider that? Most people just leave you alone and you could work at a mall that had a bookstore you could hide in on your breaks!

[Narya]

I think working for a call center would be a good job for you, T.

My youngest brother is working for X-Box as their tech support. He seems to like it.

[YayGollum]

Okay, I have applied to several other things. Most interestingly, I found a part time position unit secretarying about in a recovery room, which is the part of the hospital in which I was mostly raised. *is excited* No security guard positions for myself, though. Craziness. That is my evil father's business. Must avoid.

Anyways, there is totally snow all over the place over here. Craziness. :rolleyes:

[chrysophalax]

Woot! Go, Recovery!:D

[Narya]

... a recovery room, which is the part of the hospital in which I was mostly raised.


Care to elaborate? or is it too personal?

[chrysophalax]

Phooey, it's hardly personal. I worked as the unit secretary in the recovery room of our local trauma hosptial and he was a volunteer there and in ICU for a few years. Fun times!

[Barliman Butterbur]

During my long absences these days from TTF, the webmaster has implemented a system of Friend lists, and several people are requesting to be placed on my list. I would love to accommodate them, but I don't know how! Can anyone explain the process to me?

Much appreciation,

Barley

[YayGollum]

Hm? I thought that I had already seen you become designated a friend to some. Does it stick your avatar up as someone's friend even before you can accept? oh well. Go to that User Control Panel place. There should be a thing on the left calling itself "Contacts and Friends." Click on that thing. A page will then appear that has names and avatars of whoever's looking to add you to a useless list. Add check marks to the little boxes, then hit Okay or whatever it is. No? Something like that.

[Narya]

RANT: I have a splitting migraine from all the work.
unrant: my brothers have gone back to their normal selves again. :)

[YayGollum]

Rant ---> Well, this is my last month before my lease is up, and I still don't have a job. Bad luck. I am still looking around for jobs, but, by most accounts, they are difficult to obtain, nowadays. I hope that Rochester is the only city affected by such a malady. Any suggestions on where I should move next? Anybody know where an awesome unit secretary somewhat similar to myself might have a decent chance at obtaining a job? If it looks as if I won't be getting anything here, I shall have to move again, hopefully for the last time ever. Argh. Too much moving.

[Firawyn]

Well, you could move to Tuscon --> there wont be any snow, mayhaps you've had enough of the cold this winter in Rochester? There are lots of hospitals around here - I could look for unit secretary jobs if you like. Plus the rent here is very reasonable. The complex I live in is good, and also there is great public transportation so you wouldn't need to worry about getting anywhere. Also, it would be very fun to play air hockey with you again. I know just the place to do so. Much cooler of a place that the one we went to in boring Pennsylvania. There are other jobs here too, besides unit secretary. Like I said, there are lots of hospitals but the overall economy of Tucson is pretty good.

[YayGollum]

Greetings, all. Having all kinds of fun? Oh, I hope so. Anyways, I now *hangs head in shame* request advice. What with the no jobs anywhere and myself being almost out of money, I am retreating from this Rochester of New York place. Upon looking for more reliable roommates and mayhaps helpful ones, I have become fought over. Which group would you go for?

Group A: Eagerly offered to drive up here to move my stuff (which may or may not mean that I have to pay for their gas), quickly found a place for me to live with a very reasonable amount of rent, I'd be living with some dude and his cat, neither of which I've met, but, from what I have heard, they definitely sound like my kind of people (cats are people, too), I would be staying with this dude until June, which is when he and a bunch of people that I know and enjoy plan on moving to a much nicer place in a much larger city, the initial place is small and pathetic, but the apartment is directly off of a busy highway, where plenty of pathetic fast food type places would be available for myself to mayhaps obtain a job at until we go to the city.

Group 1: These people will be able to drive up here, but I will definitely be paying for their gas, they have a five bedroom place but only four people to pay rent so far (including myself), it would be a decent chunk more expensive than the other place, but probably about the same if we found a fifth that we could all agree on, I only know one of the people there, but he is known for his generosity, which could be plenty helpful, this guy knows lots of people and seems reasonably confident that he could help me out with getting a job down there, there are less pathetic little places that I could mayhaps get a job at more quickly in his area, though.

Both places are back in the horrible South Carolina, which I despise, but oh well. Both groups are all kinds of enthused by my flattering attentions, which is as it should be. rolleyes

Group A's plan of moving in June will only mayhaps include my most favoritest roommate of all time, which is my main reason for wanting to go with them. But then, they are not sure about that plan. Plenty of time to worry about it, and there would be at least some people that I enjoy going there, either way.

The dude that I know in Group 1 has always been decent to me, but I have always been a bit unsure about the guy. While generous, he is the sort to employ it as a weapon. I know next to nothing about the dude I'd be living with for a while in Group A, but others in the group are definitely cool.

I had pretty much decided on Group A, until the dude from Group 1 called and was wishy-washy about exactly how much rent I'd have to pay (Group A has always been firm), then offered to pick me up earlier, which would be awesome. I am quite desperate to get a decent job again (I should never have left the evil Florida rolleyes ), and it seems likely that this guy could help me out with that, while I'd only have my horrible luck with Group A.

So, Group 1 sounds more reliable, but Group A sounds more comfortable. I really shouldn't be taking chances, so I should go with Group 1. But then, I am horrible with people. I only know the one guy in Group 1, but with Group A, I'd have the chance to have my most favoritest roommate as a roommate again. She is one of the few that I enjoy praising, which is refreshing, to myself.

Also, would anyone happen to know much about how to deal with landlords? I have looked over the lease, and it looks as if it is up at the end of December. This guy called me up recently. I told him that I wasn't sure if I would be here for January or not. He said that he had no problem with just going from month to month without signing a new lease. He also said that, since I hadn't given him thirty days worth of notice, I'd have to pay for January whether I am here or not. This makes little sense, to myself, since my lease is up at the end of December. He should have expected me to leave or sign a new lease, yes? He can't make me pay for January if I leave before then, correct? I may have told him over the phone to not worry about it, that it seems as if I'd have to pay for January whether I'm here or not, but I didn't sign anything like that, so I'm cool, yes? *hides*

An edit to type ---> Hey! Why did I never notice what that Firawyn person typed at me? Garn, yo! Whoops! Looks a bit too late for that now, unless your offer is better. :rolleyes: To all ---> If ever I meet any of you in real life, I can totally beat you at air hockey!

[chrysophalax]

Stability over comfort is to be preferred just now in my estimation. Possibly you could still move in with Group A in June anyway even if you go with Group 1 now?

As to the landlord, yes, you should be fine unless your lease states that you must give 30 days notice, then I'm afraid he may have a point.

[Firawyn]

An edit to type ---> Hey! Why did I never notice what that Firawyn person typed at me? Garn, yo! Whoops! Looks a bit too late for that now, unless your offer is better. :rolleyes: To all ---> If ever I meet any of you in real life, I can totally beat you at air hockey!

Well if I were you, I'd go with stability over comfort - find some type of job even if it is not a type of job you enjoy, and then save your money until you are stored up enough to find a way out here (perhaps a bus would be in order? or a plane? I can't imagine finding people to drive you all the way across the country...but mayhaps my imagination is lacking in that area because I have never done such a thing)

The rent here in Tucson is decent. My complex usually has openings and is $410/month for a six month lease...slightly less for a year lease but I don't know how you like to do this. (that includes all but electricity, which I have found to be between $20 and $30 a month extra) They are studio apartments so not much chance of finding a roommate for those, but if you took one of them I could almost certainly get you into one immediately. But there are other kinds of rent options as well. Tucson has a big Collage crowd so there are lots of students who look for roommates, and other kinds of people look for roommates as well. I also have a friend who has a house that he always lets random people rent room in for as short or as long as they need, so that would be an option I think if you had difficulty finding a place.

As far as jobs - the job economy is decent here in Tucson. Lots and lots of hospitals. Much larger a town than that cold Rochester place. Lots of opportunities for fun also.

So my offer is that if you can find a way to get to Tucson with a reasonable stock of cash for, say the first two months of rent (at least) to give you plenty of finding job time, than I can easily help you find a place to live...that is really easy in Tucson. That offer is always standing, also...so if you wanted to do that now, I would help, and if you wanted to do it in six months, I would still help.

Presently I am visiting evil Pennsylvania and I have remembered why I moved to Arizona. I plan on retuning via plane to Tucson and not returning to evil and cold Pennsylvania to live ever.

I could also be of some help if you wanted to move to that town I used to live in (where I am now), because I know lots and lots of people...but the job market here is not amazing, so I would not highly recommend this idea.

Hope some of this helps.
Firawyn

[YayGollum]

The groups are still fighting over me, and Group 1 has obtained the lead, mostly because it looks as if he'd be able to get up here sooner. :rolleyes: oh well. The studio apartment in the Tucson of Arizona sounds all kinds of awesome, since I despise roommates, anyways. My dream was always to be a hermit who deals with humans as little as possible. I shall keep the idea in brain.

Anyways, I still like this Rochester place the best, though. What's so bad about the cold? Cold is easily better than heat. You can always put more clothes on, the discomfort obtained from excessive cold is nowhere nearly as sickening as that which you obtain from heat, and those who have to deal with the cold are way more fun than those who deal with the heat. People are quieter when they're cold and miserable, which makes them more tolerable. *thrusts frozen nose into the air, which is much more comfortable than thrusting a sweating nose into the air and wishing you could just peel your skin off*

[Prince of Cats]

You've got one chance to live this life (presumably), to me the answer shines through your first post. Group A is where you can find your favorite future roomate, not worth giving that up for money, especially when it has strings (wishy-washy & manipulative) attached. As long as you can make ends meet till then you seem like a pretty smart & wise and thus frugal sort of guy.

Just my http://www.stinalisa.com/twocents.gif

BTW you're crazy cold is worse :D

[YayGollum]

I know, yo! Group A is all kinds of fun! Group 1 would not be especially unfun. Both would have annoying parts, but Group 1 would have more. But oh well. They don't live too far apart. Maybe I can visit. *sniff*:rolleyes:

Also, I submit that you are the crazy one. Can't even come up with one reason for why heat could be seen as better than cold, while I have several? You fans of heat make little sense! *huffs away in the cold, which is invigorating and much unlike huffing away in the heat, in which all movement is exhausting and sticky*

[chrysophalax]

At least Charleston is much less sticky and hot than Columbia and you have an ocean breeze. I always hated Columbia because the air never moves and you feel like you're baking.

[YayGollum]

Ick. All of the south is the same, with their sickening accents and two-faced hospitality. The north is better. Lots more of them are intelligible, and they are either neutral, hostile, or they know you well enough to act friendly. *rants*

[chrysophalax]

You're preaching to the choir. As a Yankee myself, I know only too well. Unfortunately, the south seems to have all the economic advantages just now. Ironic, I call it.

[Prince of Cats]

Okay, it's been snowing since I got up this morning. That's one reason cold stinks. Last week I got snowed and plowed in and it took 2 days of shoveling to drive my car. Plus, when it's cold I get sick and my arthritis acts up. Plus I HATE being cold. 65 degrees in a T shirt is near shivering for me. I'd much rather be comfortably sweating at 100 degrees than all tense and standoffish in the cold. The past week we've probably averaged ~10 degrees F. When I went outside to shovel Sunday morning weather.com said the wind chill was -31. Check the pic for the awesome scarf action.

On top of that, I absolutely love forests. We don't have evergreens here (actually there are a lot but that's just because of stupid landscapers and homeowners) so in the winter the woods are all barren except for maybe little birds that are as frustrated as I am. When I go mushroom hunting in the forests in the summer I forget about time and stay till it's dark. When it's freezing cold I walk around as fast as possible to get it "over with" (like I have some obligation :D ) and just mutter to myself how much I hate cold instead of enjoying the view.

Geez ... cold ...

EDIT; check out that picture, I'm 22 and the cold's given me crow's feet! :D

[YayGollum]

Snow is not a reason for why the cold stinks. Snow is composed primarily of awesome. A grand invention by Melkor for us.

Having to shovel snow is not so bad. Every morning, Mel sends you some exercise. You shovel a bit, then you play in the pile you created, then you go inside for some hot chocolate. When it's hot, just walking around is an achievement, but you're too miserable to appreciate it.

Comfortably sweating in one hundred degrees? There is the proof of insanity, yo. By what means can sweating be contrived to be seen as comfy? Skin (which is already pretty gross) becomes your enemy. Everything else becomes your enemy, too, since your nasssty skin will just stick to it. Quite gross. In the cold, you don't have to worry about that. Just wear layer after layer and walk around, pretending you're a robot. Quite fun. The winter is when you'll see me smiling the most, mostly at other people's discomfort. :D

Towards trees, I am antagonistic. It's the future, yo. Shouldn't we have invented an oxygen-producing machine by now? The only trees should be museum curiosities. Anyways, when all of the leaves are gone, you can see farther, which is a good thing. Trees, obstructing my paranoid view! *shakes gloved fist, an idea which would be scoffed at as a dangerous waste of energy in the heat*

Voluntarily staying outside in the summer and deciding to go inside only once the sun has gone down? More obvious evidence of insanity, I type. The winter gives us longer nights, which are muchly preferable to a sickeningly cheerful yellow sun and an obnoxiously blue sky.

When it's blazingly hot, I wish that I had the energy to rush to the next haven of air conditioning. I attempt to employ that trick of picturing myself in decently cold weather, but the sweat dripping into my eyes, the wish to tear my skin off, and the crazy heat-lovers pleasantly chirping, "Hi! Great weather we're experiencing, would you not agree? Although you look miserable, I shall endlessly prattle starting... Now!" I groan but can muster the energy for little but a feeble swat.

Ugh... Heat...

Also, Yay for crow's feet and, I suppose, scarf action! It means that you're getting older before your time! This is good. Who's wish to experience more summers than they have to? :rolleyes:

[Prince of Cats]

When it's blazingly hot, I wish that I had the energy to rush to the next haven of air conditioning.

HE WHO SHALL NOT BE NAMED!! :eek:

:D

Also, the 'future' of futurism is a joke, trees shall rule again http://www.clipartof.com/images/emoticons/xsmall2/1065_winking_devil_smiley.gif Plus, the shade of trees is kind of like darkness, Melkor should be down

[YayGollum]

I have no idea whose name shouldn't be employed, and since you can't inform me, I shall treat that part of your post as a distraction. Aha! My reasoning for why cold is better than heat wins!

Towards nature, it has lived long enough. Fans of it seem to me to be the tragically useless life support systems, when the patient is too far gone to recover. Yay progress! When are we going to shed our fleshy bodies and turn ourselves into robots? Or how about that converting ourselves into pure energy idea? That sounds even better! Humanity is awesome! Nature can be remembered, if you're a fan. No large deal. :rolleyes:

Also, darkness isn't one of Mel's inventions, although, he was a fan. Probably because not even Eru had a hand in that one. Darkness is purity and to be enjoyed by all.

[Prince of Cats]

How am I supposed to name for you that terrible cold producing machine that shall not be named?? :D

Here is my real life rant to ease everyone else's pain ... I just had surgery on my butt. Hurts like crazy but I refuse to take man-made medication. Closest thing I have to natural medicine here at my parents' house is bourbon. Errrrg, it hurts so bad and now I'm outta bourbon :(

[chrysophalax]

So, I assume you never take any antibiotics either?

[Prince of Cats]

So, I assume you never take any antibiotics either?

Nope, I collect wild medicinal mushrooms from the local forests with potent novel antibiotics & antivirals modern strains of diseases haven't been exposed to

I'm not mortally opposed to pharms but somewhat 'morally' opposed, probably for silly reasons. My rheumatoid medication sent me to the ER first (and last) time I took it and since no pills except vitamins

[Firawyn]

Do you have RA, Prince?


Ah! I'm back! I'm home! Pennsylvania was cold. I almost died with the lack of decent internet exposure.

[Mike]

Well folks, it's been hovering at c. -30 degrees Celsius ever since I got back to Whitehorse, and after a fairly depressing Christmas eve and day, it looks like temperatures are going to stay as they are for the next few days. I am not looking forward to the bus ride back to Hell (read: Alberta), and there's all the bittersweet sorrow of not seeing my parents for yet another four months.

But still, the major rant remains that it's far too cold up here to chop wood effectively.

[Prince of Cats]

Do you have RA, Prince?

Firawn, yep, according to 'my' rheumatologist and her blood & genetics tests. Nothing really to rant about yet, like I said I have local medicine from the forests. Staying away from wheat gluten seems to really help too, though I'm not allergic as far as I know

Mike, Yikes! That's -22 degrees F and is crazy cold. It's supposed to hit 52 (11C) and heavy rain here tomorrow!! Melt, snow, melt! :D Hahaha ... floods and fog and mushrooms, just how I like it ;) You can find me skipping in the woods playing the flute after work tomorrow afternoon, bring your drum!

[Firawyn]

Yea, RA is on my doctors' lists of "oh, that might be it". I've got similar symptoms to RA, and then some. But as of yet, all the doctors have been able to tell me is "looks like some sort of auto-immune disease". Oh yea! That's helpful.

[Noldor_returned]

Rant: Women! Argh! What is wrong with you! Not all of you actually, just the ones I associate with. Three in particular:

A good friend of mine has suddenly being very critical and blames me for being concerned. We had a huge argument the other day about something stupid and it turned into problems with each other. Then when I had explained my thinking she refused to admit anything, and stayed stubborn! GAH!
A work colleague who I am friends with spoke about me behind my back. I don't care that she disagrees with me, but she could still say it to my face! I wouldn't be offended and my opinion of her would be high because she would show her honesty. Now, I found out about her dishonesty and my regard for her has diminshed.
Finally, there is a young lady who I have met who seems to be perfect for me. Our interests are almost identical, with enough differences for it to be interesting. She's athletic, funny, smart, pretty and has no major issues to deal with (unlike my past gfs). Anyway, I can see no reason why we shouldn't go out, but she has one argument and once again through stubborness, refuses to back down. Because she is 18 months older than me and therefore there is a 2-year age difference, she thinks it's wrong for us to date. She says the maturity won't be right, all this other stuff, she'll feel like a cradle snatcher and etc. After much persistence from me, I decided to drop it, at least for a while. Anywho, both Women #1 and #2 have an issue with her, don't know why. So I'm starting to wonder whether this is causing more trouble than its worth. But she seems so perfect!!!
I don't know if all women are like this, but this is ridiculous, and it's only the main three problems!

[Mike]

Finally, there is a young lady who I have met who seems to be perfect for me. Our interests are almost identical, with enough differences for it to be interesting. She's athletic, funny, smart, pretty and has no major issues to deal with (unlike my past gfs). Anyway, I can see no reason why we shouldn't go out, but she has one argument and once again through stubborness, refuses to back down. Because she is 18 months older than me and therefore there is a 2-year age difference, she thinks it's wrong for us to date. She says the maturity won't be right, all this other stuff, she'll feel like a cradle snatcher and etc. After much persistence from me, I decided to drop it, at least for a while. Anywho, both Women #1 and #2 have an issue with her, don't know why. So I'm starting to wonder whether this is causing more trouble than its worth. But she seems so perfect!!!


Strange, nearly all the girl's I've dated were older than me, ranging from a few months to three years. I never ran into that stigma, so I can't really help you out.

[Firawyn]

Finally, there is a young lady who I have met who seems to be perfect for me. Our interests are almost identical, with enough differences for it to be interesting. She's athletic, funny, smart, pretty and has no major issues to deal with (unlike my past gfs). Anyway, I can see no reason why we shouldn't go out, but she has one argument and once again through stubborness, refuses to back down. Because she is 18 months older than me and therefore there is a 2-year age difference, she thinks it's wrong for us to date. She says the maturity won't be right, all this other stuff, she'll feel like a cradle snatcher and etc. After much persistence from me, I decided to drop it, at least for a while. Anywho, both Women #1 and #2 have an issue with her, don't know why. So I'm starting to wonder whether this is causing more trouble than its worth. But she seems so perfect!!!I don't know if all women are like this, but this is ridiculous, and it's only the main three problems!


Well NR, the man I'm currently with is 29 years my senior. There certainly are age related issues we deal with, but we've learned that the love was worth more than the minor age related things. If I were you, I would tell this young lady that a) in ten years neither of you will think twice about an 18 month age difference between someone you love, b) if she can get along with you despite the age difference as friends, there's no reason why you couldn't get along as more than friends, and c) that she could ask herself would she regret not at least trying it.

One never knows. :cool:


PS...no, women are not all that crazy. Mind you, we woman think the same of you. ;)

[Prince of Cats]

PS...no, women are not all that crazy. Mind you, we woman think the same of you. ;)

Truth is: we're all crazy!! http://www.best-of-web.com/_images/080218-152328.jpg

Not a rant, though :D It'd sure be nice if we didn't have to destroy the world in the mean time, sure, but it's pretty fun when everyone's being crazy

[Noldor_returned]

I would tell this young lady that a) in ten years neither of you will think twice about an 18 month age difference between someone you love, b) if she can get along with you despite the age difference as friends, there's no reason why you couldn't get along as more than friends, and c) that she could ask herself would she regret not at least trying it.


As for A, tried it, many examples given (such as their parents age difference), and B & C are alternatives, especially C, I might try that soon.

[Prince of Cats]

Really, though - to me at least - the difference between 17 and 19 can be huge. And being 22 when I meet people who are 19 or 20 I don't take them nearly as serious as someone my own age or older until I get to know them (doesn't apply to this board at all, don't worry :) ). That isn't to say I take most people my own age seriously, most of my friends are 5 to 25 years older than me. My point I guess is that when I look at myself two years ago I see myself as naive and could understand that point. In that 18 months that seems cursory to you she has probably experienced some of the craziest or most powerful and self-defining moments of her life, which creates that perceived gap.

Another issue is, is she in college and you are in high school? It's hard enough in college to have a long term relationship (I did it for almost four and a half years and in hindsight kindof regret it) when your and your significant other's friends want to slut it up - and of course depression and desperation love company. Every time she goes out to drinking parties she will probably have friends trying to convince her to cheat on you, if you are in high school it makes it that much harder for her being ridiculed by her friends. Not that those are good friends, or that should be the way it is, but unfortunately in my experience that's the way it goes.

Nowadays - Every two or three weeks, if that long, I get infatuated with a new girl. I always think that *bam* she's the one, but it's probably just my longing for true love convincing myself. If this woman can't get past you being 18 months younger right now she is probably going to worry about it later, barring some mythopoetical or earth-shattering sexual experience between you two. Keep your eyes open, there's probably a better match. Look for the one where you both are too much into eachother to even notice the little stuff.

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[Mike]

Greyhound buslines lost my luggage today. Concealed within are 72 pages of written manuscript that I SHOULD have taken in my carry on...
Hopefully, I will get my luggage tomorrow.

[Prince of Cats]

Wow, Mike, that sounds absolutely terrible. I hope your writings and whatever else was in your luggage come back to you :(

[Firawyn]

That really bites Mike! I can imagine that kind of stress...the manuscript. Once upon a time I just kept all my "writing" on my computer...till the day it crashed and I was lucky as hell to be able to recover most of the files. It's terrifying thinking that you might have lost it all. Now I burn backup disks. :)

So far as luggage in general...I've just made it a habit to always limit myself to carry on bag (when I fly). On the upside, since I'm a woman, the airline will allow me to take a carry on "bag"...and a VERY large purse. What they don't know is that I carry a wallet and never purse...but what they don't know wont hurt them, eh? :D

[Mike]

Hurrah, my luggage came back to me. How could it not, what with all those little legs (doubles as a good place for storage and a homicidal maniac, when required).

Yep, I just watched The Colour of Magic.

[Narya]

We are getting evicted. After 10 years and a baby, we are forced to leave the house because we can't afford it anymore. Hooray for the global financial crisis. http://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Sad/sad-056.gif

[Wolfshead]

We are getting evicted. After 10 years and a baby, we are forced to leave the house because we can't afford it anymore. Hooray for the global financial crisis. http://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Sad/sad-056.gif
Really sorry to hear that, Narya. The credit crunch really does suck. I feel really hard done by being a graduate who now can't get a decent job because I'm competing with even more experienced people than myself who've been laid off from elsewhere. However, your story really puts things into perspective. I just need enough money to support myself, which can be done on minimum wage behind a bar. I don't have a family to look after too! Have you found somewhere new, or at least have family to stay with?

[Narya]

Really sorry to hear that, Narya. The credit crunch really does suck. I feel really hard done by being a graduate who now can't get a decent job because I'm competing with even more experienced people than myself who've been laid off from elsewhere. However, your story really puts things into perspective. I just need enough money to support myself, which can be done on minimum wage behind a bar. I don't have a family to look after too! Have you found somewhere new, or at least have family to stay with?

Well, the answer is, no-to both questions. I can't afford a new place, not with the current prices. I do have family, but I really hate to impose. But I might have to do that. We are given only until next month to get out or we will be THROWN OUT. Oh, well. That's life. On top of that, the label has shelved my album... yet again. Hooray.