You know something, I've thought about this often. I guess, as a young person in high school and a middle schooler the idea of love being forbidden or harder than (honestly it should be) made it that much more exciting. The idea of a fictional world with so many rules and traditions made it seem more real to me, as a kid. Now I'm an adult at the age of 28 and a love that seems so hard, or forbidden actually makes it seem more fictional to me. Like Romeo and Juliet. But, hard loves have always been apart of the works of fiction. Whether it be Anna Kerririna and Atonement are brilliant examples of this. Where "forbidden love" are the main points. Granted, Atonement it was less forbidden had the lie had not taken over I don't think Cecelia would have been forbidden to visit Robbie in jail. And Anna Kerrinia was forbidden because of Anna's marriage, although in the very beginning it raises questions, like how come men can cheat and there seems to be no consequences? which isn't right by any means. Of course religion plays a huge role in Anna K. And maybe since Tolkien was an openly religious man this plays a factor. It's a way for his characters to question rules, or religion without doing anything violent or hurtful towards another being. This is always a strong, suspenseful theme in fiction though and personally I'm not shocked that Tolkien finds a fascinating love with forbidden or hard loves. As for the fact "it's a man's world" I do not think that was his initial intent, but mind you he was writing these histories and tales, myths and so on just as such. It's not to say his races and species wouldnt evolve from what we read, but to say these are meant to be seen as "tales of old" And to be fair, Galadriel seems immune to this notion of it being a mans world and she does go as far as being apart of the council and influencing the fate of ME. You're right though because she seems to be the only woman to do this.